During the Second World War, an English priest was given the unpleasant task of telling a widow that her son had been killed in action. She had already lost her husband during the Battle of Britain; the priest knew that this newest piece of information would be completely devastating. He knocked on the widow’s door and held his breath as he waited for her to answer. As she answered the door, she saw the priest’s clerical collar and knew that the news would not be good. Tenuously, the priest said, “Madam, it grieves me to inform you that your son has been killed.” The widow’s response was surprising: “Won’t you come in for a cup of tea?” As the pair sat at the woman’s kitchen table, munching on biscuits and sipping Earl Grey, the priest observed quizzically, “Madam, you seem to be coping with this loss remarkably well. I certainly would not have felt able to invite someone over for tea if I had received the news you just received.” The widow mused, “I always have a cup of tea at this time. I’m told that when one faces devastating loss, one should strive to keep one’s routine. It’s the only way I can move forward.”
Today is Holy Saturday, the day that we remember the uncertainty that followed Jesus’ death. It is the day that we remember the grief of those closest to Jesus: the sorrow of his mother, the dejection of his friends, and the uncertainty of his disciples. In the liturgy for the day, we say the words of Psalm 130: “My soul waits for the Lord, more than watchmen for the morning.” Holy Saturday is a day of mourning and waiting. Yet it is also a day of routine. It’s striking that in the accounts of Jesus’ burial, a primary concern of those who mourned Jesus was to ensure they observed the Jewish burial customs, that they did the same thing that their ancestors had done for hundreds of years. Even more striking is how careful they are to observe the Sabbath, to take the day of rest appointed by Jewish law, to do the same thing they have done week in and week out for their entire lives. In the face of their grief, in the face of their uncertainty, in the face of the fact that their world had crashed down around them, those who mourned Jesus fell back on their routine, because that was the only way they could move forward.
There is a wisdom to routines. In the face of uncertainty and pain, routines can be an enormous comfort. Even as our world crashes down around us, we can cling to our routines and they can sustain us as we carefully move forward. But even as we return to our routines, we must always be willing to be surprised, to be jolted from complacency by a truth that transcends even the grief and uncertainty of this day. In the meantime, we are called to return to our routine, to gather in hope, and to wait for the Lord.